If you are trying to make any improvement in your life, you certainly have received many "pieces of advice" from friends, family and even from random people you don't know. And yes, most of those opinions are not helpful at all and you didn’t even ask for them. Let me know in the comments if you received those annoying advice.
This is what we have figured out:
Most people's opinions come from a place of fear
Yes, people have their own issues, their own experiences, their own set of beliefs and most of the advice you will get comes from mainly two fears. The fear that something terrible can happen to you. Or the fear of realizing that they were wrong.
Let me give you some examples.
My parents have always shared their opinions with me, and most of their thoughts are about what if… what if something bad happens to you? What if you lose all your money? What if you get your heart broken?
You know, parents want to protect their kids. I'm a mom, and I totally get it, sometimes I which I could put my daughter in a bubble. Please help me here and type me too in the comments, so I know I'm not along with these crazy thoughts. But that's not how life works, right!! Sometimes you love somebody so much, and you are so afraid to lose that person that your thoughts and opinions are all about your own fears, which is not very helpful.
So if you have people like that in your life, be grateful! And try to understand where they are coming from, they have different experiences and different beliefs. So don't be hard on them, but also remember that YOU are the one who makes the decisions. So smile, say thank you and keep trying your best to improve your life.
Buuuuuuuuuuuuutttt we are not done yet!
You might have many other people around you talking about your decisions, your life, that certainly have nothing to do with love.
Well, these are the people who are afraid of realizing that they were wrong, that all those beliefs they had were actually not true, that what they believed was impossible was actually possible. There are a lot of people out there who gave up on their dreams, who believed that those big dreams were impossible and even silly… so they decided to stay in their safe place living an average life, with average goals, average debt, average job (breath deep) because that's what everyone else does.
As Brene Brown says: If you're not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I'm not interested in your feedback.
If these people have no money saved, are full of debt, working in a job they hate, in a relationship they hate, in a country they hate and are doing nothing to change it. Don't even bother to listen to them or even try to explain to them your decisions. Don't waste your energy on them.
Instead, focus on your vision and the steps you need to take to get there, it’s not your job to prove anybody but yourself. Look for facts, for proof, for evidence of what you dream is possible. How? Just look for people who are already there living that vision, get inspired by them. And spend your time on things that help you grow, get some books from the library, listen to podcasts, watch YouTube videos like this one and get the knowledge you need. Stay focused on your dreams because the more you connect with them the more goodness you will attract to your life.
I hope this post was helpful and please share it with anyone you think can benefit from it.
Keep crashing your money goals, and we will see you next time!
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